That's where we're at, Alan and I. We're negotiating the terms of our continuing M/s relationship. We're ironing out needs vs. wants and what we both feel is reasonable.
I have to giggle just a little here because his favorite show is The Dog Whisperer with Cesar Milan and nearly every time he explains something he uses dog pack mentality for his analogies. Yesterday he was telling me that yes, he had given me too much leash and was letting me "walk" him instead of the other way around. I giggled and told him I was just waiting to hear him imitate Cesar's accent, and of course, he obliged me.
It is true though, at least in our household. I'm a beta but will be alpha if the alpha isn't alpha-enough. As with dogs, human owners have to train human property to be submissive, they have to lead them in order to be followed. So we're working and negotiating, not to get back to what we had but in order to move forward. I think we've both realized just how badly our communication broke down and I think we will keep working at communicating more openly. I'm still uncollared but I don't want it until he's ready, if and when he's ready to do so. I want him to be firmly in the lead, I'm weary of leading, it's not my accustomed position.
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