Selfish?

We spent a fabulous weekend with our girlfriend and it really was fabulous. I didn't have any twinges of jealousy. Honestly, it was really great to see Alan and her get to connect.  There were a couple of times where I felt a little like a third wheel and maybe we should all have individual time together as couples too. But I didn't feel negative or jealous about any of that. 

 The thing I did have a problem with was during playtime Saturday night. The energy between the three of us was intense. She and I are evil sprites  and work well together as a giggly sadistic team. Oh did we have fun playing with Alan and each other. But then I ended up getting very aroused and didn't get any sexual follow up like I'm used to. I

was so turned on that I'm certain I could have orgasmed, easily for a change. I guess I'm angry about the missed opportunity. I understand why he didn't want to. It would have been unfair to her since her husband is not okay with her having sex with Alan. I agree but it's unfair to me to be denied sex and sexual satisfaction.

 We are going to have to discuss this because I can't keep going like this. I haven't orgasmed for a few months and to have missed that opportunity is a big deal for my sex life.

 I feel like a selfish jerk because I'm making an issue of it and insisting on my pleasure. But I don't think I should have to suppress my needs either. I'm frustrated with this one thing.